LOVE AND RELATIONSHIPS IN HUMAN DESIGN
EPISODE #6: LOVE AND RELATIONSHIPS IN HUMAN DESIGN
In this episode, Leah talks about Love and Relationships in Human Design. She discusses all of the following:
15:29 If you can find your soulmate in Human Design
17:31 What a connection/composite Human Design chart is
21:00 How to support your partner by energy type
25:09 How to support your partner by authority
29:03 Profile combinations: harmonious, dissonant, or resonant
32:29 Connection themes
33:10 Center connections: electromagnetic, companionship, dominance, uncertain
33:59 Channel connections: electromagnetic, dominance, compromise, companionship
41:13 Information about my new course
Leah, 5/1 Sacral Generator, uses this episode to talk about all things love and relationships. She shares which human design types are best suited for each other and how you can support your partner based on energy type and authority. She also explains which profiles, themes, centers, and channels connect best with each other. You will also find out information about Leah’s new course!
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EPISODE TRANSCRIPT
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Welcome back to another episode, happy Tuesday, , and happy Valentine's day. That is when I'm releasing this episode. And in light of Valentine's day, I wanted to dedicate an entire episode to talking about love and relationships in human design and how all of that weaves together. , a lot of times I get questions when I do my weekly Q and A on Instagram stories about.
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I'm a generator and my partner's a manifestor. How do, are we a good match or is this profile with this profile, a good match or I'm a non emotional and this person's an emotional, are we a good match for each other? And I'm going to be diving into all things relationships. But before I do that, you guys know the drill.
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I want to just give you guys all the updates. So the first thing that I have to say is. That I have to give a shout out to a few of my friends, because it's currently Saturday, February 11th, and it's 2. 24pm, and my friends are all at a park, they're laying in the sunshine, I live in Southern California, and everyone's, you know, having a great day, they've been rollerblading all morning, and They just facetimed me and they're , come, come to the park, come hang out with us and I was , I can't, I have to record this podcast episode.
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If you've been paying attention to my stories, I was. Really sick all week, not really sick, but just super stuffy and, , which is honestly a reminder to myself that I should re or pre record these episodes ahead of time more than just a week because all week I was just waiting for a day to wake up where I wasn't stuffy and I sounded okay and could jp on and record a podcast.
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And so today is that day I finally woke up, and I am not stuffy, and so I said to them I have to record this podcast, and they're , well, give us a shoutout. So this is my shoutout to Kendall, Zach, and Nina. , I will hang out with you guys shortly. I just want to record this podcast, and then I've got a couple little work things I want to do, and then I'm gonna take my dog to the park, and then I will be headed your way, wherever that may be.
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Thank you for being supportive friends. I hope you're listening. And honestly, shout out to all my friends, because I do know that a lot of you guys listen to my podcast, and that's the most supportive thing this past week. Actually, my aunt reached out to me, and I had put together one of my old chart smaries for her.
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She's , hey, can you re send me that file? And so I actually went ahead and just sent, I put together a guidebook for her, and I sent that to her. And she's , how much do I owe you? What do I pay you? And I said, you never have to owe me anything. Please just spread the word about the work that I do, share it with a friend.
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The most supportive thing that you can do for me is just be Supportive of my, my business and the work that I do in the world and, and be curious and ask me about it. There's nothing that I love more than someone asking me about what I do. And on that note too, it sometimes can feel what I do is, it's kind of weird to explain.
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And if any han design readers are listening, , what do you tell people when they ask what you do? Because I'm always in this weird sort of place where people ask what I do. And I am a han design reader. It's, you know, if I was an astrologer, I think a lot of people know what astrology is, or at least they know their zodiac sign, but when I say that I'm a han design reader, people have no idea what I'm talking about.
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And so then it gets into this whole, , explaining what it means, and how it works, and, you know, all the things. And so, I Really, I don't honestly love when people ask me what I do, because then it becomes this full blown conversation and not that I don't love han design. I don't love to talk about it.
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I mean, I have a podcast where I just sit here and talk to a screen and pray to God that people are going to listen to this podcast, but. You know, sometimes it can just be this conversation, and I think people have fears associated with things that are kind of out of the norm, or I don't know, a lot of people will put a defense up around their religion and different things and, you know, 1 thing that I'll just say, and I've said this before on the podcast is just that, you know, han design is.
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A tool and if it, if it resonates with you and if it feels useful, then you don't run with it. If it doesn't feel useful for you, then that's okay. , you don't have to, I'm not here to convince anyone of anything. , I'm just here to talk about something that I love that's helped my life. to try to help other people's lives.
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And so that's, that's the magic of what I do and what I care to kind of put out into the world. So that's just a little note and a thank you to my supportive friends that even care to listen or just, you know, my Instagram posts, follow me, whatever you guys do. I really, all of it is so appreciated.
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So thank you to friends and family and honestly, just everyone. , so if you're listening to this, you're supporting me in some way, shape, or form. And if you haven't yet, leave a review on my podcast. That helps me in more ways than you can imagine. And literally, I am the most empathetic person in the world where I will sit and read your reviews and have tears streaming down my cheeks because they make me so happy.
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So. It's also a reminder to share if you what I do, because that means something to me. But, okay, anyway, so, , yeah, this past week I have been just a little bit under the weather. I actually, the week before that, I had a UTI, which was horrible. I've never had a UTI to that degree. If you know me, I will go to the ends of the earth to avoid an antibiotic.
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And I'm not here to have a discussion about this, but I just am very into health and wellness. I will do anything to not have to take medicine. , if I have a headache, I'm not even taking an ibuprofen. , I, I will, I'm the type of person that's , Okay, well, that's because I'm either dehydrated or I need to, you know, move or I need to whatever.
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, I will do everything but take a medication and I had a UTI and I literally was , pretty much almost crying in pain and I'm , get me to urgent care, get me an antibiotic, and I telehealthed, , which is so cool, great technology, if you haven't ever used telehealth, , oh my gosh, that is amazing, literally within 10 minutes of me feeling awful.
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I am still in my bathroom, just on a FaceTime call with the doctor and they prescribed me an antibiotic and a pain med. And I literally was able to, Zander went out and got that. And, , yeah, also I know Zander's going to listen to this. And he said to me last week that he says, I talk about him a lot on my podcast and that.
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He is , I'm going to be famous because you talk about me all the time. So this is Zander's, , my, my kind of, , segue into Zander. I will probably bring you up Zander again, because, , I'm going to be talking about relationships. And so this is an episode about han design and relationships. So we'll talk about that.
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But yeah, so this past week I had a UTI and then the second that that got better, I just got really sick. I was skiing last weekend with friends. It was so much fun. I'm still a beginner at skiing, but I'm learning and I'm curious and I'm going to continue to try and I don't plan to become a pro, but I plan to just do it for fun because I to hang out with my friends and they, they love to ski.
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So that's what we're doing these. In these day and ages and so, , but yeah, so I was just around a lot of people and then of course I get sick and so yeah, so we're recording this on a Saturday. It is beautiful outside here in sunny California, but when is it ever not beautiful, to be honest. And then the last thing I want to say actually updates if you have not yet.
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Then paying attention to Instagram or my email, I launched something called decode your design. I launched this I think a couple weeks ago to my email list and I sent it to a bunch of you guys and there ended up being a bug a little gremlin of a bug was wrong with the code and if anyone's listening And you know anything about development.
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I have a background in development. So basically the API, the data that we were grabbing from, there was something that changed on that end point that was causing a break. So pretty much anyone that was a projector, it wouldn't work for because the data that I was pulling from, , Or the strategy was to be invited and, , it had been changed to, to be invited and recognized.
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So, anyway, we had to change that and update a couple of the incarnation crosses. And, yeah, so, I ended up getting that all resolved after figuring out what that gremlin of a bug was and working with my Amazing friend that I used to work with in my corporate America days, kale, and we got that bug fixed and I relaunched it officially on the feed on the instagrams and yeah, it's out into the world and it's been so cool to see all of your shares.
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I mean, really, my hope with that was that you guys could quickly learn about your han design without having to. You know, pay your mortgage or not. Sorry. I should say skip your mortgage because you know, I'm I know that han design is is not cheap. And I know that I even charge a lot for my readings. I charge.
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I just up my price to 300 a session, which I know is really low for a lot of people, but also really high for a lot of people. And I recognize that I am just trying to deal with the supply and demand of people. Booking sessions with me, which I'm beyond grateful for. And I hope that you guys get everything out of your sessions with me because I really do put my heart and soul into it.
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So that said, I didn't want people to have to pay an arm and a leg to learn about their han design because so often I hear people say, all right, I, you know, I found my birth time. I got my birth certificate. I plugged it into your site. And. I literally have no idea what any of this means because it's confusing graph shows up and then there's this list of energy type strategy, authority, determination, and, and, you know, all these different words and it doesn't really say what any of those mean.
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It's , okay, generator. What does that mean? Okay. I'm a. You know, my strategy is to respond. What does that mean? So I wanted a way where it's just a quick snapshot into your design and what it quickly means for you. And, you know, I think Incarnation Cross is something not talked about enough. And I would love to start talking about Incarnation Cross more because it is so fun.
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It's probably one of my favorite Pieces within han design, but incarnation cross is where we kind of find our purpose. And it's more of a life theme rather than people always type purpose to career. , Oh, your purpose was to be a teacher. Right. And it's not really that it's more so about your purpose energetically.
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And so anyway, that's a part of it as well. So I will put this in the show notes. It's called decode your design. All you need is your birth information. You plug that in and it'll tell you your energy type and it'll say , you know, a part of your energy type, you are an innovator or you're a life force or you're a natural leader.
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And then it'll tell you a gift about your energy. my gift is to uplift the energy of the world. And then it'll tell you a little bit about your strategy. And it draws on your signature theme a little bit there, and then it'll tell you about each of your profile lines, which is just kind of that fraction nber, so your profile will be a 5/1 or a 1/3 or a 2/4 or a 6/2 something of that nature, and it'll tell you kind of a little snippet of what each of those nbers mean, and then it'll tell you what your purpose is, which is Just draws on that incarnation cross again.
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And so it's really fun. And it's been so cool. People are sharing them to their stories and they're tagging me. And, , and I can actually see, , how many times this has been used. And we're at over, over almost 3000 people have been using it in the past week. It was so crazy. I could live see when I launched this, , I forget what day it was this past week.
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I think it was maybe Wednesday or Thursday. I could literally live see when people were doing it and it was so cool just to see , boop, there was another one, there was another one, there was another one, there was another one. And then I could see multiple people were doing it over and over.
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And so I don't know, I can't keep up with it, but it was just so fun to watch. I literally took a video and sent it to my friends and I'm , oh my gosh, look how many people are using this tool, which it makes me so happy because I really, that tool I have been working on. For a long time, we started development.
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I believe in May of 2022. I basically had the idea for this a while ago. , and I think in the beginning of 2021 is where I kind of came up with this idea and I had actually reached out to several developers and several. I have lots of connections in that space because again, my, my corporate days, I used to work with them.
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On a development team. And so, and if any of you guys know what any of that stuff sort of means, I was on an agile. I was a, I was an agile. , what was my freaking title? Agile release manager. I was a scr master at one point, and I honestly kind of served as a product owner informally. But so that was my background.
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And so, yeah, I'm , I was reaching out to all these people that I knew that could, you know, Configure code. And it was a challenge to get to this point. And then finally, we, we finally got to this point. And, , yeah, we've just been building it. And I've been, I've had to rewrite things a few times as I've just, you know, interpreted it and wanted it to be a little bit more clear.
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So I'm just so happy. All's to say, I'm so happy that it's out there. I hope you guys love it. Keep sharing it. Personally, I set mine as my phone background, just as my little reminder. And, , I think people are, you know, look at my, Phone, you know, when they're next to me, they're , Oh, what does that mean?
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And so it's just a great conversation starter. And, and yeah, so I hope you guys love it. And to know on that, the, the actual text that outputs is drawn from the guidebooks that I sell. So I personalized guidebooks, which you guys have just been loving, which has been so cool as well. In each page or each section, there is a.
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There's kind of a front page that says something about your design. , so for example, if you are, I mean, I've been talking about generators because that's what I am, , if you're a generator, your page will say, your page will say, my gift is to create and lift up the energy of the world. And so it's kind of this, it's kind of this sort of smary of some of the highlights of your guidebook as well.
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So I hopefully. Hopefully, this gets you intrigued into potentially purchasing a guidebook. Alright, let's dive into relationships. Let's talk about love and han design and relationships and all the things. If you would to take notes, go for it, but yeah, let's dive into it. Okay, so first things first, I want to say that there is no relationship that is better than another.
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Based on your human design. I so often get questions about different people's charts, and if this is a good match, if this is their soulmate, and unfortunately I am not able to tell if someone is your soulmate by looking at your human design chart. I can see different things that you, I can see where there are differences between the two of you, energetically speaking, or gifts that each of you have that maybe one person has stronger than the other, but there's actually no sort of way to determine if someone's your soulmate or not.
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When I work with couples, the nber one thing that we talk about is awareness. Han design is a great tool for Having better relationships and cultivating better relationships and friendships and relationships of all kinds, but it is not that any relationship is better or worse for each other based on your han design.
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And this is an important note because there are so many weird little apps coming out in han design where they're , check your soulmate, see if you're a good love match and. That's not a thing. , it's not a thing. It actually, , makes me so irritated because it's not a thing with han design.
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It's about awareness. If you have awareness for how you operate, and then you have awareness for how your significant other operates, it's amazing. That's what's gonna make you guys have better relationships. If you know that your partner takes a longer time to make decisions versus you, or if you know that Your partner loves to, you know, dive into research and, and really get into the weeds of things.
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If you know that your partner is a hermit and needs to take time alone, that's going to set you guys up for success. It's not going to say that one is better than the other because I've seen all types of relationships work. And it's just about, again, having that awareness. So when I do a couple's reading, which If you would to book a reading with me, you'll notice on my website, I used to have a specific reading for just couples and I got rid of it.
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If you want to book a couple session, just book the private han design reading with me and if you want your significant other there, then go for it. If not, we'll just talk, I'll just talk to you about their chart or your composite chart, which we're going to get into, which is basically when both of your charts come together and we can look at how your energy kind of operates as a, as a couple.
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And so that's what, that's, what's important about han design and relationships. It's having the awareness of how your energy works to set yourself up for a happy, successful relationship. So no two charts are better than another two charts together. And so you can understand your partner by getting a guidebook, getting a session for them, you know, downloading an app of some nature, you know, scrolling around on the Internet and just knowing kind of how they operate and then having a conversation about it.
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I think that's a really, those are all really great. Steps. The next thing is that you can look into something called your composite or your connection chart and a composite connection chart is basically two charts overlaid because when two people are together, essentially their chart is actually overlaid on top of each other.
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So if someone has an opposing gate, you actually will form a channel together and then you will light up perhaps a center that the that one of you guys didn't have. And so there's actually this. whole sort of separate chart aside from you that you have with anyone that you're with. It's not just your partner.
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So it's really cool to look at a connection chart for maybe a business partner, maybe , of course a lover and your significant other, your, your children or just anyone that you spend the most time with. We are the five people that we spend the most time with. Have you ever heard that? So it's important to understand.
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One, who those people are, because they're affecting you energetically, and so if you don't the five people that you spend the most time with, I have bad news for you. You're gonna have to You know, or good news, maybe good news. It's just a reflection and you're going to have to change those relationships up or understand them, understand their, your differences and get to know each other again, build awareness.
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So that's the first thing when it comes to a relationship chart is just building awareness and understanding each other and getting this composite chart done. You can do this on a lot of different han design chart softwares. I personally love genetic matrix. That is my all time favorite chart software.
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Of course, I have. A chart software in my site, but I don't have relationship charts enabled right now. TBD, that could be coming here soon, but you can look those up on, there's several different software. It's just Google, . Connection chart, relationship chart, han design, and something will come up.
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And when you get that graph, then I want you to then come back to this episode, if you were just listening to this driving or something, but come back to this. And we're going to talk about the different things. And then perhaps you may be interested in something that I'm going to share at the end. So stay tuned.
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So let's talk about it. So a connection chart is essentially, again, those two body graphs together. When two people are together, their auras overlap and the energy flows in and out of each other. This is, again, why it's so important to understand these relationships. Relationship charts can help us understand how our energies work together, where you have a strong bond or companionship, where you have a lot of chemistry, maybe what drew you to each other, where you feel less than, or perhaps maybe where you are dominant, where you kind of run the energy.
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So how you can interpret a connection chart is by looking at different areas of the chart as a whole. So the first part is, of course, the energy type, because we know that that is so important. And again, these can be kind of individual. But so if you have a. You know, if I'm talking to a projector that's in a relationship with a manifesting generator, that's going to be very different energy.
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And so in that note, you'll want to talk about the fact that, you know, generators are people who have, or manifesting generators, I should say, have a lot of energy and they're very curious and they go really fast and they're multi passionate. And so they're going to be, they're going to have this life force and a projector is actually going to Not have as much energy.
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They're going to need to take a lot of breaks. They're going to have to, they're going to need to lean into rest a little bit more. And so the energy is going to be a little bit different. And the strategy, which is just how can each of these types strategically. Operates air uses their energy in the world.
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It's going to be very different because a manifesting generator is designed to respond to life. Whereas a projector is designed to wait for an invitation. So knowing your energy types in the strategy and the. , signature and not self names is going to be really important because that's where you're going to go, going to find, okay, this is how this person operates best.
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So if you were in a relationship with a projector, let's actually talk about each time when you, if you're in a relationship with a projector, it's going to be really important for you to invite them in, recognize them, see them, see why they're so great, invite that into the. Invite them into the conversation, really see them and have alone time with them.
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Also, allow them to lean into rest because they need more bricks are not going to keep up with the generators of the world. So allow them to, you know, lean into that. If you're in a relationship with a manifesting generator, since we're talking about that, know that this manifesting generator is going to go quick.
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They're going to course correct all the time and choices are going to be really powerful for a manifesting generator. Offer them choices. A, B, C, or D. Do you want, you know, Mexican food tonight for dinner? Or would you Italian food tonight? Give them choices to choose from because that allows them to respond to something.
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Same goes for generators. They do really well having this response. So ask them binary questions, this or that, you know, give them options, give them choices. If a generator, a manifesting generator is Following what they love to do and it lights them up even though it doesn't make any sense to you or, and it may not even make sense to them.
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Allow them to do that, encourage them to keep doing that. That's gonna be really supportive for the, that energy type. If you are in a relationship with a manifester, know that open communication is gonna be really important for you guys. , create a space where this manifestor feels really comfortable speaking up and sharing and having.
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This strong, sort of, open line of communication that they feel comfortable sharing things, informing you on what they have going on. And, you know, also know that your manifesto is going to work really quickly. , they're going to get a spurt of energy out of nowhere and they're going to need to follow that.
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And then, you know, when they're not having a spurt of energy, they may need, they also may need to lean into rest. They're not, they don't have these defined, , sacral, this energy part of their chart. So, they're going to kind of need breaks as well. And if you're in a relationship with a reflector, Know that your reflector takes time.
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They need time when it comes to making decisions and that they, the best thing for them is to, you know, include them, invite them, and, you know, similar to a projector is see them, really honor the fact that they're, that they're kind of this nonjudgmental, reflective, energetic, bright, Being that is so in touch with the world and it kind of feels everything and honor that if your reflector wants to change environments, if they want to redecorate, if they want to move things around, allow them to do that because that's going to really help your reflector be in their sort of best energy.
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So knowing your energy type is really important and there's a lot more there. But let's move on to the next pieces that are going to be really important. So again, with the energy type, knowing their authority, authority is where we see someone's intuition and how they make decisions. This is going to be the thing that you can empower your partner to lean into when they're deciding something.
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So if someone has emotional authority, giving them time, allowing them to sleep on it, knowing that it's best for them not to make a decision right away and encouraging your partner to, you know, take some time, you know, don't be impulsive, you know, give yourself a moment, feel into this or, you know, allowing them to kind of ride this wave and just being.
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You know, they're to support them if they need to share, they need to talk about things. If you're dating someone who has a sacral authority, what you can do to be supportive there is knowing that if whatever they're doing that's lighting up that gut is making them so excited and expanded, allowing them to continue to.
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Lean into that. And, you know, again, if it's not, if it doesn't make sense to you, then it's not meant to, and it might not even make sense to the, the generator, a manifesting generator with this gut, just allowing them to lean into that sacral and encouraging them and maybe saying, are you expanded by this?
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Is this something that is going to bring you a lot of satisfaction? Are you filled right now? And honoring that, , if you have someone who has instinctual authority, allowing them to. Make quick decisions out of nowhere. If you have instinctual authority, you're going to be really spontaneous and you're going to get kind of this random whisper or epiphany out of nowhere.
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That's act go. It's very survival based almost. There's kind of a safety mechanism around it. And so if that's your partner, if they have spleen or instinctual authority, allowing them to change direction really quickly, allowing them to. If they say, we can't do this or we got to go do this thing next, trusting that that's going to be the best sort of thing for them.
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They're going to know kind of instinctually if someone has willpower authority or, you know, heart authority, ego authority. There's all different names for it. That is going to be someone who their heart has to be in something. They have to have the will for it. They have to have the willpower to go after something.
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So you're going to hear them say things . I will do this or I want to, or they're going to make promises when they really want something. And so it's encouraging them to be in touch with that willpower. And then also asking them questions , is your heart really in this? Is this something that you feel you could follow through on?
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Is this something you're, you know, do you have the will, do you have the energy for this? And so again, we can support each other. In these different formats, if someone has self projected authority, or as I to call it, voice at authority, a lot of people call this sounding board. They need to talk through things.
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And when they're talking through things, it's not to talk through things to get someone's advice. It's just to share because when they listen back and hear their voice or when they're speaking, sometimes something comes through and that's how they make a decision. And so it can be really supportive for, , A partner that's with someone who has, you know, this authority is to say, Hey, lean into, lean into talking it out.
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Do you want to talk? Do you want to share? Do you want to go for a walk? Do you want to, do you have something to just talk through? , you know, write it out, something that. Those can be really supportive. That's how you can support your partner here. And finally, if you have environmental or mental authority, or if you were a reflector.
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It can be important for you to lean into what spaces or people feel best for you. So being in the right environments, talking it out, planting yourself around the people that make you feel best, that's going to take these people a lot of, a lot more time. So encouraging this partner to say, Hey, you know, if you need to feel into this, why don't we, you know, why don't we just kind of run some errands or why don't we let's go to the park or go somewhere that you love.
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You know, let's just feel through it or let's just, you know, circle back to this after we've given it some time or space and that's going to be the best thing for those people. So knowing your authority is going to be really important for those reasons. The next thing to know is your profile. Profile is essentially our personality and it's the role that we're meant to play in life.
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And these roles are essential to our relationships because they shape whether or not we complement or contradict each other. And again, there's no right or wrong combination, but there are three different types of connections when it comes to profiles. So you can either have a resonant, harmonious, or a dissonant profile combination.
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A resonant profile combination is when both people have just basically the same profile. So a 1/3, that's in a relationship with a 1/3. A 5/1, that's in a relationship with a 5/1. A 3/6 that's in a relationship with a 3/6. When this happens, there's potential to develop a very strong and trusting relationship in which each person will help the other one develop in life.
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They sort of just sort, they just sort of get each other. And this can lead to a mutual understanding of how their roles operate. And the key here is not to get static since they play similar roles, it's just to, you know, find that resonant and cherish it and embrace it. The next profile combination is called harmonious, and harmonious profiles are when the profiles are different but they complement each other.
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And since these profiles are harmonious, there is a lot of complementary aspects that can help the other person develop. And so, sometimes there's just not often times conflict that we find here. So, the harmonious profiles are as follows. So, a 6/2 in a relationship with a 3/5. A 1/3 in a relationship with a 4/6, a 2/5 in a relationship with a 5/2, a 1/4 in a relationship with a 4/1, a 2/4 in a relationship with a 5/1, and a 6/3 in a relationship with a 3/6.
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Those are the harmonious profiles. Again, if you do not fall in the resonant or harmonious, it does not mean your relationship isn't phenomenal. It just means that there's differences. And so that said, the next one is called the dissonant profiles. Dissonant profiles are when they're not in harmony.
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Dissonant profile combinations are combos basically not listed in that previous sort of list that I just gave. It does not mean that people aren't compatible. It just means that they approach things differently. And this can lead to potential for misunderstandings, but it's also an amazing opportunity for awareness and an appreciation to embrace each other again.
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The next thing we to look at when it comes to relationships is your connection theme. So connection theme is when we look at how many centers are defined or undefined between the two charts in your composite. So if you've looked up your composite, you can, it usually will list this. So if all nine centers are defined in your chart, it's called the nine and O.
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If you have eight centers defined in one undefined in your chart, that's You know, 8 plus 1. There's also the 7 plus 2, which means there's 7 centers defined, 2 undefined in your connection chart, the 6 plus 3, which is 6 centers defined, and then 3 undefined in your connection chart, and then 5 plus 4, which is 5 centers defined and 4 centers Undefined in your connection chart.
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Why this is important is because the connection theme can help us see how much energy is circulating between two people. It helps identify where energy is open and available to be filled in by others outside of the two individuals, and vice versa. And if you would to learn more about each of your connection themes, I'm gonna offer you and tell you about something right now.
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, that I'll also explain at the end, but I am going to have a course available for you to learn about your connection theme that I'm going to be launching on Valentine's Day when this releases. And so the link will be in the show notes, definitely let me know if you have any questions on that. Send me a DM.
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I will be happy to answer all of your questions. This will be available all the time. So you will be able to purchase this course whenever you want. Okay, so let's move into the next part, which is centers centers are kind of the connection theme, but also it's a place where we can see where someone has chemistry that friendship, or it could be a dominance, or there could be sort of an uncertainty that happens the way our centers are defined individually and then together tells us whether we feel the energy themes of the centers through a connection or not.
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And so if you have an electromagnetic center, this is where none of the centers are defined for any of the partners, but they are within the connection chart. So it's , Oh, we have this energy when we're together. So for example, how you would get one of these is someone had an opposing gate that you have.
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So for example, if you had gate, seven, and then the person that you're with has gate 31, even if you don't have a defined identity and they don't have a defined throat and vice versa, when you are together, if well, not seven links up with that 31, you're creating the channel that's right there. The seven to 31 channel, that's called the channel of leadership, but that will give both of you a defined throw and a defined identity.
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And so if neither of you had, let's just say neither of you had that defined throat, now you guys have sort of this defined throat when you're together. And so that can be this electromagnetic connection that allows you to just kind of feel into the energy. There and so it's pure synergy and there's a lot of complimentary energy that happens there And so it's there's kind of it's kind of giving birth to a new quality.
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That's not in you or your partner separately So it's kind of one plus one equals three here. The next one is called the companionship centers This is when you both have the same center So if you have a defined route and they have a defined route if they have a defined spleen and you have a defined spleen when that happens or sort of this relation to the energy, it's Oh, we both have this.
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This is consistent in us. And you know, it's important to note the channels that cause that center to be defined because that can also influence the way that the energy is felt there. And we'll talk about that in a little bit. The next one is a dominant center. A dominant center is when the center is defined in one person.
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And And in the other person, it is not defined. And so that person sort of, , it gives the other person that defined energy. So for example, , I have a defined ego, and when I'm with Xander, he does not have a defined ego. And so he kind of has that, he feels that energy from me, and it's sort of a dominance, because that's the energy that I have there.
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So when this happens, the effect is either enhanced by the interaction, or it's weakened. So that can just be sort of a dominant energy. And then the last one is an uncertain center. This is when a center remains open for both partners. So, so for that, it just is essentially there all the time and it's not going to be filled in by each other.
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So there's not a gate that's creating a channel connection. And so when this happens, this is basically an opportunity to feel the energy of the center somewhere else. And in your not self. This can be feel a complaint or a blame for not having enough energy in the center, or it's a place where you guys can develop wisdom together.
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So again, there's lots of ways to look at it. The last part of a connection chart that we to look at is channels. And channels are important because this is where, again, they sort of make the centers. And so this explains a big part of how the energy of a relationship operates. So that these are similar to the centers where you could have an electromagnetic channel, a companionship channel, a dominance channel, or a compromise channel.
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And depending on which one you have, it can add to the relationship. So an electromagnetic channel is going to feel a lot of chemistry. It's Oh, you had that gate and I have this gate. And so now , again, we'll use that seven and 31 example. So if a partner had 31 and then I have a seven, there might be some sort of leadership connection that's happening through that energy there.
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And again, those centers too, it's going to create this electromagnetic, , part of the relationship. If you do not have any electromagnetic channels with your partner, it does not mean it's good or bad. Sandra and I have zero electromagnetic channels together. And I remember when I was first learning about this, I was , Oh my God, we don't have any chemistry.
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And we have tons of chemistry, obviously, and so it's relationships are not defined by. Whether you have a lot of these things or not a lot of these things, and I want to make that really clear because it's just a way to understand perhaps where there's a connection and, you know, if you aren't having the energy, they're , you can still be compatible in so many different ways.
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It's just about having awareness again, then the next one is a companionship channel, kind of the centers where it's just if you had one channel and the other person has that too, then you guys have a connection the 60. I'm going to keep talking about the internet. We both have the 60 to 3 channel, the channel of mutation.
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Which I to call the innovative channel. And so we both have that. And so there's a companionship there. And so this is the part of the relationship that tells why there's a bond. And there could be an element of friendship and understanding of each other in the energy that's held within those channels.
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So there's a lot of mutual respect that comes through. The next one is called a dominance channel. This is where someone has the whole channel defined. And the other person doesn't have this channel or even one of the gates within the channel. So sometimes someone could have the 7 to 31 again. , they could have that full channel naturally.
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And then another person may have the seven or another person may have the 31. And so that is something to be aware of because where there is a dominance, it's that the person who has the full channel, they dominate the energy of the relationship in which that channel is expressed. And so most times the partner.
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Missing the energy often describes their partner in this way, and these are energies to accept in your partner. You can't change them. So if it's 7 to 31, , they may have a lot of leadership energy and, you know, , just accept that. , you don't, you don't have that. You don't have that energy and that's no big deal.
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You may feel that when you're with them, because again, you're going to create that connection. So you're going to feel that, but. You know, it's not yours to carry all the time. The compromise channel is the next sort of thing that can happen with a connection, where a compromise channel is when the whole channel is defined by one person in the relationship and the other person has only half of that channel.
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or basically one of the gates. So again, the seven to 31, we're going to use this as our example. If someone had one, one partner had the full seven to 31, and then the other person just had the seven or just had the 31, there's a compromise because the person with just the one gate is always looking for the opposing gate.
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And there would be an electromagnetic connection there if the person. So for example, if 31, And the other person just had, , it had seven, there'd be an electromagnetic connection, but if the other person has the full channel, then someone's just having 31 or just has a seven, then there's going to be sort of a compromise.
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And so the person who has only half the channel has to essentially, you know, play by the rules, quote unquote, , of their partner by giving it or surrendering to the energy and, you know, try not to create a lot of conflict or make big compromise on, you know, the principles of whatever the energy of the channel is.
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So, And the last piece that's important to know is to look at your definition and see what you create definition wise together. So those are all of the highlights when looking at a connection chart. The other thing that I would look into, again, is just individually how this person operates on their own and building that mutual understanding of them as a person.
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And then if you want to get into the connection chart, Now you have this podcast to serve as a resource for you and you can purchase my course that again, I'm going to link down below that I'm releasing today. So definitely, you know, purchase this course and learn how to read your connection chart.
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There is a case study included in here. So you'll read about a couple that I've done a, , relationship reading with before. And I will kind of talk about their energy types together, their authorities together, their profiles together. And please send me all of the questions that you have. If you have any in my DMs, I'd love to hear from you guys.
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But I'm going to wrap it up with just this today. We're not going to do the mini readings portion of the show because I just want you guys to , just have this quick episode, I don't want to make it too long because the episode a couple weeks ago was really long and I could see the people were dropping off, , at certain points.
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So, I totally, , don't want to ever make an episode crazy long again. So, yeah, I will just keep this right here. Please let me know if this helped you, if you have questions. I'll do a Q&A on my Stories when this releases that you'll be able to go in and ask me different things about relationships and, you know, han design and all the things so look forward to that.
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I hope you guys are having the best valentine's day and even if you are not in a relationship or you're single. I know that this day can be really heavy, , depending on where you're at. So, you know, give yourself grace. Self love is the nber one thing that you can do for yourself. And, , you know, I believe that han design is honestly one of the most amazing forms of self love.
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At least it's created that relationship for myself, , and understanding me. So I hope that. Maybe a han design is done the same for you, so happy Valentine's Day. Love you. I love you. I love you. Okay, bye.
